Confronting adoption trauma and infant grief can feel terrifying and oftentimes immobilizing. Please trust that you can get through this. That you are not alone, even if you feel isolated. That you are deeply loved, even if you don’t believe it right now. You were born into circumstances that equipped you to get through this, and through coaching, education and embodiment/ breathing exercises- you will 💛.
This is a big undertaking, as adoption trauma is something adoptees have been carrying for their entire lifetime without any awareness that it even existed. Feelings of helplessness, despair, anger, fear, resistance, and deep grief will come up. Understanding trauma will dismantle what you thought you knew of yourself, your relationships, and your relationship with yourself in the world.
If you are beginning to understand adoption in this way, you will need support during the process. As someone who has gone through it, and many other traumas, I have the compassion, education, experience and insight to help you navigate this scary time and emerge as someone who knows themselves more deeply. I would be honored to be a part of your healing process.
How do you make sense of your life and what has happened to you? Where is the understanding between accountability, blame, and acceptance? How do you reclaim who you were before? How do you move through what happened without numbing out, acting out, disassociating? How do you find safety again? How do you feel again and regain your sense of self? How do you contain your anger, and how do you resolve your experiences?
Trauma is so difficult. It’s easy to pretend like you’re unaffected. It’s easy to move away from your values and sense of self because the trauma probably destroyed you from the inside out. I can help. There are so many resources, people and groups that are more supportive than your best friend, your partner, your parents… because they often have lived it and they have the training and expertise to find the help you need. They can hold space for you to start to explore the wreckage. Reach out! Maybe it’s me. And if it’s not, I will help you find a better fit.
Adoptee Video Support Group
Join us, once, twice, whenever you want to. Thursday’s at 6pm MST