Adoption 101

Being bounced from hospital to foster care to orphanage and receiving the most basic of care (food, shelter) without love or consistency of caregiver impacts attachment, trust & a sense of safety. It changes the way you relate to other people, and how you make sense of the world. Sure, each individual must confront their own trauma, and that takes tremendous courage. But this is trauma that for too long had no name. The trauma of adoption disrupts what the nonadopted majority believes by default of ignorance: that adoptees should be grateful and that adoption is only a gift. Adoptees weren’t traditionally brought up understanding what their grief was, because it was overshadowed by the parents’ joy and because the grief was an unknown.

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